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“Loneliness is a place that I know well
It’s the distance between us
And the space inside ourselves
Is the chattering in your head
It’s the call of the living
And the race from life to death….”
Annie Lennox writes about longing, belonging, hopelessness and a hunger in her beautifully written song called “Loneliness.” People seek out a therapist for these reasons and many more including anxiety, relentless fear, obsessions, sensitivities, trauma, divorce, body image problems, eating disorders, uncoupling, aging, dissociation, work-related issues, drinking problems, powerlessness, control issues, parenting dilemmas, losses, illness, and the list goes on.
My goal, our goal, in our work together, is to move toward a greater freedom of expression. Some people come to therapy thinking more than they feel and others feel more than they think. Some individuals come to therapy feeling "stuck." This suggests an internal world that needs sorting out; an untangling of the knots, so to speak. The goal is to feel more integrated and feel relief from the pain. In my experience, people sometimes have difficulty sitting with mixed feelings, as it stirs up anxiety. The tendency is to want to get away from this anxiety so people will make rash decisions. Therapy can help individuals tolerate the feelings…yes, tolerate the feelings….of ambiguity.
We live in a world of constant stimulation and being gratified instantaneously.
Delaying gratification and sitting with ambivalent feelings is a sign of mental health. I encourage you to speak freely about what is on your mind, not to censure yourself. Things that you might not consider to be important may be quite significant. Our work together can be weekly, biweekly or more if necessary. I will always encourage you to tell me if you agree or disagree with me, or have positive or negative feelings toward me. The therapeutic relationship can be a microcosm of what is going on outside of therapy room and can offer new ways of interpreting or perceiving yourself and others. I believe the healing takes place in the relationship.
Socrates said it best, “an unexamined life is not worth living.”
Online video Skype sessions are also available.